Today (August 21) is mine and Mrs. Dude’s 21st wedding anniversary.
Our amazing marriage has survived an earthquake (Northridge of 93), bladder cancer, pulmonary embolisms, celiac disease and a host of other stress-inducers. But nothing quite compares to what we are dealing with right now.
Not only did my first Dudette go off to college three days ago (much more difficult than I expected), but today Mrs. Dude goes in bright and early for her double mastectomy to get rid of this effing cancer once and for all.
Life is good. It really, really is. Mrs. Dude and I are both blessed with many things to be thankful for. But every once in awhile, I find myself thinking “Really? You’re throwing another thing at us? Go pick on somebody your own size!”
But I know that’s what life is all about. Everyone’s got their sh*t. It’s how we deal with it that matters. As a matter of fact, I’ve had a quote hanging in my office for years that says:
Ain’t that the truth.
I know I’ve been quiet on my blog the past few weeks. A lot to digest. I’ll be back in full, snarky force in no time. Just need to get past this stage.
Right now I’m off to find a “Thanks for the Mammaries” anniversary card. May be a tough find. (And yes…I had Mrs. Dude’s permission to use that line. Gotta love her 😉 )
In the meantime, I will leave you with a poem I wrote for Mrs. Dude on our last anniversary. I posted this back in November but heck…she’s worthy of a repost.
I made a simple trip
To celebrate Aunt Carol’s birthday
And out of the city I slipped
Who would watch Lauren
While we went out and ate?
Aunt Carol had a plan
And boy did that turn out great
(Dude note: She got Mrs. Dude to babysit my niece. That’s how we first met.)
It took me a good three weeks
To make the dreaded call
Would she even remember me?
Does she know I’m not that tall?
My fears were totally unfounded
As you put me so at ease
It was like I knew you forever
And boy was I ever pleased
We set up our first date
Sushi and a movie
By the time the night had ended
We both knew this was groovy
It only took 11 months
Before we both knew
We wanted this forever
Ya ti bla le blu (Dude note: Russian for “I love you”)
Our wedding was just perfect
Our honeymoon the same
Then it was off to LA
To find my fortune and fame
(Dude note: I went to LA to continue my [failed] acting career).
But instead of finding fortune
We found unsteady ground (Dude note: Northridge Earthquake)
Our love was truly tested
And east coast we were bound
We settled in New Jersey
Plainsboro to be exact
The early years were rocky
But I would not take them back
Because we were tested early
And came through even stronger
I knew our marriage was meant to be
And we’d stay together much longer
Along came our dear Courtney
Our life would never be the same
She was such an amazing gift
With such a beautiful name
Three years later it was Maddie
Our family was complete
Throw in two great puppies
Our life could not be beat
We made the move to PA
Into the house of our dreams
Our marriage could not get better
Or so that it seems
But something strange keeps happening
My love for you keeps growing
How does this happen after 20 years
When many marriages simply stop flowing?
I’ll tell you how it happens
The answer is crystal clear
I married the perfect woman!!!!
I want everyone to hear
Thru celiac and cancer
And don’t forget the clots
And yes let’s throw in migraines
When you’re seeing tons of dots
You’ve held it all together
You are this family’s glue
Your strength is awe-inspiring
Your looks are not bad too!
You’ve aged with grace and beauty
Yes even when your hair was down
You are my pride and glory
Well…maybe not when your hair was brown
(Dude note: She dyed her hair…results not as expected.)
So today we celebrate
Twenty awesome years
We’ve laughed, we’ve loved, we’ve lived
We’ve gotten thru some tears
Isn’t that what marriage
Truly is about
All that life dishes out
I love you more than words
Can ever fully say
You are my perfect soul mate
In every single way
So let’s raise a glass to us
As I make this toast
I love you no matter where we are
The east or the west coast
And if the next twenty years
Are anything like the previous ride
I’ll be the luckiest guy in the world
Because you are by my side
Now seriously…let’s go kick cancer’s ass.