Happy New Year everyone. Hope you all had a great holiday. Personally, I’m pretty psyched for 2015 and am happy to see 2014 in the rear view mirror.
Let me ask you a question. During the holidays, did you eat any meals at someone else’s house? And if so, were you treated like crap? Did you feel like an outcast because of your food restrictions?
If not, awesome. You have true friends and family.
If so, I’m sorry. It looks like you’re not alone.
I received the following message on my Facebook page over the weekend:
I have to sit there and watch my husband eat. My sister has gone gluten-free in the past year and she deals with it with her husband’s family also.
Are we expecting too much that our family members would have at least one thing to offer us? From our standpoint we would never have somebody come to our house and not have something for them to eat .
I would ask or look it up online but to us it just seems that they obviously don’t care enough to try to have something.
What is your whole take on that situation?
Oh boy, do I have a take on this. First, I’ll be gentle Dude.
I’m so sorry you have to experience this. Do I find it absolutely ridiculous that your own family can’t prepare something for you? Absolutely. Actually, ridiculous is being too kind. I find it rude, ill-mannered and just totally crappy.
So much for gentle Dude.
Who has family over and not have something for them to eat?? And don’t tell me it’s too difficult to prepare a safe meal. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: It ain’t rocket science folks. There’s this thing called the internet where if you WANT TO LEARN how to keep a celiac safe, you can look it up.
But that’s the key: you need to WANT TO LEARN. If you can have your family over and simply watch your daughter-in-law not eat, well…that doesn’t say a whole lot about you, now does it?
I do have a quick solution for you. If you know they are not going to make anything for you, bring your own food. Problem solved.
I gotta ask…what exactly is your husband’s take on this? He’s the one who should be taking the issue up with his parents. Is he really willing to sit there and eat dinner while you aren’t eating anything?
My suggestion is that you open the lines of communication. Maybe your in-laws don’t believe in the whole gluten-free thing for whatever reason. Maybe they do and just feel too overwhelmed by it. You will never know unless you talk openly with them.
There’s that word again: communication. I’m telling ya folks…it’s the key to fixing life’s problems.
Sorry for the tough love. It comes from the heart.