Dude Note 1: Celiac Awareness Month starts tomorrow. Well, the “official” month starts tomorrow. I think I have a good idea for this year. Check back tomorrow.
Dude Note 2: I am WAY behind on emails. I promise I read every one and will do my best to respond.
Let’s get right into it today. I received the following email recently:
I’ve been reading your blog for quite a while now but this is the first time I’ve ever reached out to you (or anyone for that matter). This isn’t really a rant but more of a need of support. I’m a single mom to three boys and have Celiac disease. I work full time in an emergency department and have no help from any family. This means long nights, busy days, crazy days off and pure exhaustion. I’ve been getting really sick lately and very run down.
Sometimes I put my kids to bed super early just so I can go to bed early too. I have tremendous guilt.
My kids say I’m always sick and I’m always tired and I’m doing the best I can but the struggle is real.
To be completely honest between finances, kids, and work, my health is the last thing on my mind and I know I’ve reached a point where if I don’t start taking care of myself my kids will be without both parents (the father of my kids took himself completely out of the picture).
Do you or your readers have any advice on how to learn to take care of oneself when when you feel so guilty?
My short answer: If you don’t take care of yourself first, everyone will suffer. I know it’s tough with three kids, but at times, you’ve got to be number one and that should come without guilt. Know that the healthier and happier you are, the more energy and focus you’ll be able to put toward your family.
Of course my answer comes from a married man so perhaps I’m not the one to offer advice.
Anybody want to share some words of wisdom/support??