Now here is a subject I have not pondered before and it comes from an email received over the weekend (shown below with his permission).
Hey, Dude. Sorry, I couldn’t find your real name. I’m new to the site which I was directed to by my girlfriend. She has been diagnosed for close to 2 years now, and I have been with her since. I don’t really know why i’m asking for advice but I really want to help her and not let her down. I just need some help in one area. When she says to me “I don’t feel well”, “My tummy hurts” or “I can’t really think straight”, what is my best option? Do I just rub her back and talk her through it, or sit silently. I’ve done many things and it’s usually a hit or miss. Any help would be great. – Chris
Chris…you obviously want to be there for her. And as long as she knows that, she’s in good shape.
I know Mrs. Dude will sometimes say I always try to find answers when something is troubling her, but mostly, what she really needs is for me to just listen.
It can be a total grind for those dealing with a celiac in their life. A lot of us don’t feel well much of the time. We hate being a burden on other people. And we HATE complaining about it.
I’m sure Mrs. Dude gets absolutely sick of it at times.
You’ll have moments where you are sick of it too. It’s cool. Bury your head in a pillow and let out a barbaric yawp (ten points to anyone who can tell me what movie that’s from).
Do what you gotta do to let out your frustrations.
Celiac disease affects everyone.
Ok…I’ll open this question up to the floor. If you’re having a bad celiac day, what actions or words from your other half seem to work for you?