Stimulus. Absorption. Effect. Response.
Back in my wildly unsuccessful acting days, I kept the above words in my wallet and before each audition, I read them to remind myself to slow down; to not just read the words on the script, but listen to them, let them sink in, determine how they would affect the character and THEN respond.
It worked wonders. Instead of getting just 1 out of every hundred jobs I auditioned for, I got 2 of them ;)
But even after all these years, I still remember those four words. And as we continue our fight for celiac awareness, I want to remind everyone, myself included, to not skip those two middle steps.
We certainly are NOT a bunch of whiners but after a month of amazing awareness and results, I do want to make sure our message continues to get across in the most effective manner humanly possible.
I was reminded of this after I received a comment from Charlie on my Today Show blog post over the weekend. Here’s how it started:
Alright, I’m just going to go ahead and say this: You are all acting like a bunch of whiny bitches.
He went on to make a bunch of nonsensical comments about how our complaining is hurting our cause and not helping our cause. And he said that we have plenty of awareness already because we have Udi’s, Schar, Red Robin, Five Guys and In ‘n Out.
Yeah…I’m not sure what his point was either.
Do I agree with him? Of course not.
And if he wanted to make his points a topic of civil discussion, starting out by name calling is not the best way to go about it.
But it did make me think a bit on how we need to continue to fight the good fight, but still make sure we come across as a respectful, yet very passionate, community.
The comment generated an excellent dialogue between Charlie and a few members of our awesome community (myself not included as I took a needed weekend offline.)
After a quick war of words, Adalaide came on and wrote an incredibly thoughtful response. She did not name call. She did not attack. She simply presented our case for why we do what we do and respectfully laid out why she disagrees with Charlie.
And thus started an awesome discussion.
Look…I’m as passionate as they come when it comes to celiac disease. And there is no doubt that we need that passion from our community to fuel our cause. That passion got one of the biggest companies in the world to pull a TV episode before it aired. Pretty cool stuff.
Do I cross the line at times? Absolutely.
Does it hurt our cause more than help it? I hope not.
Do you have my permission to give me a kick in the pants when I go overboard? Sure thing.
Mrs. Dude and I always say we need to “pick our battles” with our kids. And I think that same mentality can work for our cause.
We can’t boycott a restaurant chain because of one bad experience.
We shouldn’t start a petition on change.org every time we are wronged.
And we shouldn’t react without first listening.
Keep up the passion folks. We’re changing the world.
Let’s just try not to live in a “glass case of emotion”.