Ok…I’m back. My little blogging semi-vacation is over. Two blog posts in two weeks is totally lame.
I’ve got TONS of emails to get through and I’ll be posting them here in the next few weeks. I figure, if one person has a specific question, there are many out there with the same question. So I’ll do what I can to help. And the more you can chime in, the more we can all help. Thanks in advance.
We’ll kick things off with a mom who just…doesn’t…get it.
She’s got a 16 year old daughter with celiac and let’s just say she doesn’t take it as seriously as she should. Thanks Jimmy Fallon.
Anyway, here’s the frustrating email from the daughter.
Now normally I’m not one to complain, but this is really ticking me off. This isn’t a rant, it’s more of a request for advice.
I’m a 16 year old celiac, diagnosed about 2 years ago. This hasn’t been the easiest of change for me and my mom has been one to keep supporting me throughout it. But I really don’t think she understands the consequences of the disease very well. I’ve noticed a couple of products she uses that clearly state “may contain wheat” in my food. I mean, I would cook myself and I tell her, mom you can’t use these products, but she takes me on a guilt trip and says that “I don’t trust the food she makes for me.” Well, of course I wouldn’t trust it if the products she’s adding have gluten in them.
I’m a celiac that gets no symptoms whatsoever, making this very difficult to explain to her, because she says to me that “Even a little won’t make a difference.” I tell her it does and it still affects me but she won’t budge.
After two years, Im still going to the hospital on a regular basis for a blood test, and with no shock, the doctors finding the harming stuff in my blood, and sending me home again to try harder to keep gluten out of my diet.
How do I explain to my mom that the way she cooks my food is not right?
Your response is appreciated. Thank you.
It’s simple. You explain to her that celiac is a disease. A real disease where gluten attacks your body and causes major damage to your small intestine, leading to a host of other health issues, including cancer.
And how much gluten does it take to set off this autoimmune reaction? One small crumb. One lousy crumb.
So if a product says it “may contain wheat” and your mom gives it to you, she is poisoning you, plain and simple. Ask her plainly: “Why do you want to poison me?” I would love to hear her response.
And Mom…I say this to you: You’ll never win Mother of the Year with this behavior. Listen to your daughter. She is wise beyond her years. I’m not sure where you EVER heard that a little gluten won’t hurt, but it’s wrong. Why would you ever err on the side of endangering your daughter? What benefit do you get from it? Your daughter has celiac disease and she cannot have any gluten. Ever. Got it? Good.
And lastly, my final words of advice to the daughter: Until your Mom “gets” it, don’t eat what she is serving unless you can verify all of the ingredients and how it was prepared. Forget the guilt trip she lays on you. Put it back on her. A parent’s job is to keep their children safe. She is failing you. Tough words to hear, I know and I apologize for my direct approach. Hang tough and please keep me posted.
Anybody out there care to pipe in with some words of wisdom?