This email ripped me apart.
If somebody had a severe peanut allergy, you’d understand.
If somebody had diabetes, you’d understand.
If somebody had cancer, you’d understand.
But if you’ve got celiac disease, you’re going to get people who simply do not understand.
What is it about our disease that turns people into complete, uncaring ass wipes?
Is it so hard to educate yourself a bit about celiac disease?
Or if you’re too lazy to do a little research, at least have the decency to act human?
Here is an email I received yesterday from Monica (not her real name…posted with permission):
Dear Gluten Dude,
Please help! My boyfriend’s Dad tore a massive strip out of me today because of my being celiac.
He’s angry that I won’t eat out with them. I tried to explain how sensitive I am that I cannot trust others to prepare my food. I also tried to explain how I get sick from airborne flour and that’s also why I don’t go to restaurants.
He started off by telling me to go to my doctor. I told him I have many times. There is nothing they can do for me.
He says I’m full of it. He says there is a cure I’m just not willing to look into it. He says that I should just take an antihistamine because that’s all a celiac needs (according to him).
I gave up trying to explain it. He won’t listen! What do I do?
Ignorance is so ugly, isn’t it? I mean, you just can’t fix stupid.
Here is the advice I gave Monica.
Because our disease is related to food, some people sadly just refuse to take it seriously. DO NOT LISTEN TO HIM. If you and your boyfriend are close, get him on your side. Have him talk to his Dad. And if he won’t listen…or if he continues to give you a hard time…put up your wall and block him out. If he can’t be educated and continues to be ignorant, spend as little time as possible with him.
What advice do you have for Monica? And what would you say to the Dad if given the chance?