The below comment was left on my blog post about children with chronic health issues a few weeks ago.
I was stunned and I reached out directly to the woman who wrote the comment. I told her how sorry I was and asked if I could share her comment with the communuity.
She said “Sure, go for it. It’s a topic that I’ve never seen addressed on any gluten free forums ever, and I can’t be the only one that experienced it. Like I said, I’m normal despite everything, but if it might help others then I’m fine with sharing with a larger audience.”
I have no words that can explain her parents actions.
I have no words to soothe the woman who left the comment.
But I do have a blog.
So by posting this, maybe I can help somebody else out there. Maybe I can stop at least one child from getting hit.
To the children out there who are always getting sick…it’s not your fault.
And to the parents who take their frustrations out on their children, keep your damn hands to yourself.
Here’s the comment…
When I was a kid, I had every gluten symptom imaginable, and went to the doctor several times for tummy trouble, endured a lot of invasive tests and useless medicine (including the elderly male doctor shoving his finger up my 8 year old arse), and ultimately my parents decided that I had a “weak constitution” and anxiety issues.
They tried to fix it by frequent spankings – lots and lots of spankings.
Feel sick and can’t eat breakfast? Spank.
Won’t get on the school bus because afraid I might barf? Spank.
Won’t eat dinner? Spank.
Can’t sleep due to leg pain? Too bad.
Diarrhea at school? Tough it out.
I’m not trying to play the world’s smallest violin here; I turned out fine, except my relationship with my parents never recovered. Also, keep in mind that this was several decades ago when such parenting was more standard.
So yeah, lessons learned – there is no such thing as a “weak constitution” and hitting your kids doesn’t make stomach aches go away.