I am not a perfect parent…by far.
My parents weren’t perfect parents.
And I’m sure your parents aren’t perfect either.
But you don’t need to be a perfect parent in order to be a good parent.
And even if you are not capable of being a good parent, how about being a decent human being?
Yet when it comes to celiac disease, sometimes decency seems to get thrown out the window.
This leads us to the latest “Dear Gluten Dude”.
Dear Gluten Dude
I was diagnosed with celiac last fall and needless to say it has been life changing in many ways. Despite the fact that I would sacrifice my left arm for a regular slice of pizza, it has been amazing to actually feel healthier and not be afraid to eat when I’m at work or out with friends.
Here is the problem, my family, particularly my parents, don’t understand it.
My mother still cooks exactly the same as she always did and then gets very angry when I refuse to eat it. My father will make comments like “so what if your stomach hurts; mine hurts all the time”. I live with my family and usually I would just do my own shopping and cooking so it would not matter. The bigger problem now is that I lost my job last month so unfortunately I cannot shop for myself right now as I have no income.
When I try to talk to my mother she says “this is how I’ve cooked for years and I’m not going to change it”.
It’s so frustrating and the result is I just end up hungry!
Please help me try to make my family understand!
First…let me start with this.
Ok…I feel a little better.
Here’s the deal Mary. Your parents are unsympathetic, stubborn people. There is just no sugarcoating it here.
Anybody that WANTS to learn about celiac disease can go online and read about how serious it is. They can read about the damage to our intestines. They can read about the long-term effects unless we stay 100% gluten free.
But it seems to me your parents don’t want to learn the truth. Like so many others, they are stuck in their ways and refuse to compromise their positions for the good of other people.
And, my goodness, what is more important than the health of your own child?
I’m not sure of your age Mary, but if your parents do not come around, my advice would be to get out of that house as soon as humanly possible.
Not only do you deserve better, but your health, both physical and mental, depend on it.
Feel free to have your parents contact me directly and I will try to get them to see the light.
Until then, hang in there.
Oh…and to your parents…watch the above Jimmy Kimmel video. This is how you are making your child feel. Except it’s not a joke.